At a glance
Feelings Lens
conflict · ego · costly victory
Read the emotional pattern
Repeated scoring of points can erode connection. Discuss the pattern of conflict as well as the latest disagreement.
Separate feeling from inference
Use this lens to explore the emotional quality of a situation. A card cannot verify another person’s private feelings.
- Name the feeling this interpretation brings up in you first.
- Write down the other person’s observable words and actions separately from your explanation of them.
- If it is appropriate to ask, choose a direct question that gives the other person room to describe their own experience.
A question for your side of the connection
If I win this way, what will be harder to repair afterward?
For the full upright and reversed interpretation, read the Five of Swords card guide.