King of Swords as Feelings

Read the emotional pattern

Clarity helps with agreements, but emotional needs cannot always be settled by winning a logical argument. Listen as carefully as you reason.

Separate feeling from inference

Use this lens to explore the emotional quality of a situation. A card cannot verify another person’s private feelings.

1. Name the feeling this interpretation brings up in you first.
2. Write down the other person’s observable words and actions separately from your explanation of them.
3. If it is appropriate to ask, choose a direct question that gives the other person room to describe their own experience.

A question for your side of the connection

Would my reasoning still seem fair to someone who does not share my preferred result?