At a glance
Feelings Lens
conviction · defense · high ground
Read the emotional pattern
Protect your needs without treating a partner as an opponent. A boundary should make your position clear, not punish disagreement.
Separate feeling from inference
Use this lens to explore the emotional quality of a situation. A card cannot verify another person’s private feelings.
- Name the feeling this interpretation brings up in you first.
- Write down the other person’s observable words and actions separately from your explanation of them.
- If it is appropriate to ask, choose a direct question that gives the other person room to describe their own experience.
A question for your side of the connection
What am I defending, and is the cost of defending it still proportionate?
For the full upright and reversed interpretation, read the Seven of Wands card guide.